The Decision That Would Cost Him His Life

the-decision-that-would-cost-him-his-lifeLife is a series of decisions.  Some have little bearing on the outcome of your life.  Others are critical to the quality of our lives and and the final outcome.

I remember it just like it was yesterday.  I was a teenage boy about 15 yrs of age and I was running some errands with John and Sue (not their real names).  I had known them for a few years and had helped John work on some projects around his house.  On this day, we were all in the front cab of John’s pickup truck.  John was driving, Sue was in the middle and I was in the passenger seat.

We had stopped at the store to get something when it happened.  While we were all in the front seat, an attractive young woman walked in front of the truck and John stared intently. Not just a passing glance but a stare.  He was looking at her in a way that no man should look a woman other than his wife.  But that’s not all.  He turned to me, with his wife in between us and said, “You can look but you can’t touch,” and he laughed.  I could not believe he had just said that.

Being raised in a Christian home, I had been taught the dangers of what he was doing. But what he said and did was not the worst part of it.  What I remember most was the look on his wife’s face.  It was like seeing a balloon go from fully inflated to completely deflated. She blushed with embarrassment and gently put her head down.  She knew what her husband thought of her compared to this other woman.

Remembering the way she responded, still grieves me.  She longed to have a husband who loved and adored her but he had longings too… for another woman.  Proverbs 30:21-23 tells us that there are “three things that cause the earth to tremble” and one of those things is “an unloved woman who is married.”

I guess John did not realize, “as a man thinks in His heart so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7)  To have lust in your heart towards another woman is the same as committing the actual act.  (Matthew 5:27-28)

But that’s not the end of the story.  The single thought we heard that day in the front seat of the truck developed into more.  A few months later he had an affair with a married woman.  He left his wife and 3 kids for the wife of another man.  His wife and family was devastated. John made the decision that would cost him his life.

The day I heard of what he had done my mind went back to the statement he made to me in the front seat of his truck.  It is amazing how our minds connect current events with past ones.  Needless to say, I was not surprised.  He had already gone there mentally before the physical act of adultery.

Proverbs 7:23-25 describes John’s actions perfectly. “Right away he follows her, and goes like an ox to the slaughter, or bounds like a stag toward the trap until an arrow pierces its entrails. He is like a bird rushing into a snare, not knowing that it will cost him his life.”

Now I have something I would like to tell you. I did not come up with it on my own.  It is a Biblical principal worth writing down.  Put it on a sheet of paper and place it on the refrigerator or on the dash of your car.

Are you ready for it?

If the seed of a sinful thought is not allowed to take root,
it CANNOT bear fruit.

Now what I am talking about extends beyond infidelity. The same destructive thoughts that took root in John can also take root in us in other ways.  They are seen when we refuse to do what we know we should.  They are seen when God asks us to do something that appears crazy so we think we heard wrong. They are seen when we settle for mediocrity.

Can we all be tempted?  Yes.  Can we all be lured and enticed by something?  Yes but we do not have to let those destructive thoughts be planted into our minds.

Here is a simple reminder.
If you don’t allow it to be planted, it will not take root.

If it does not take root, it cannot grow.

If it cannot grow, it will not bear fruit.

And if it does not bear fruit you will never have to experience the horrible consequences of it.  If you don’t start the car in that direction you will never end up at that destination.

It was the Apostle Paul who reminded the Corinthian church, ”No eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him”.  1 Corinthians 2:9

I like the thought of what He has for me better than anything that the enemy may offer.

What do you think?

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5 thoughts on “The Decision That Would Cost Him His Life

  1. Just read this Proverb this morning. It is absolutely true. We need to erect “fences” far away from the core of sin to keep us from being in a position to be enticed.

    • I agree. I had a conversation with my 12 yr old daughter the other day telling her that I don’t even ride in the car alone with another woman.